Everyone does say that laughter is the best medicine. Your medications are just a supplement.
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The reason you “don’t care” is because it is something you and your body have become accustomed to. In a way, it soothes you. It’s your coping mechanism. However, it is an unhealthy coping mechanism. Perhaps this section of our Helpful Resources page can be of some assistance:
I would wrap the in paper towel and just toss them in the trash, or you can put them inside an old soda can and tape of the opening and then toss it.
(part 2) having some problems like bullying, self harm, family issues and recently suicidal thoughts. on the wall in the office it says that nothing will ever be repeated except for things that could potentially cause harm to anyone so i don’t want to talk about that, but i need an outlet and i don’t like the one i have. i’ve been really stressed lately and the thought of having anxiety is kind of adding to it. i don’t know if i should go
TW: Self-harm, Suicidal ideation
A lot of people have the same fears that you have: (1) freaking out their therapist and (2) not wanting to talk about their problems. These are both questions I’ve brought up to my own therapist, and she immediately assured me that there are very few things that people bring up in therapy that surprise her anymore and that the only way to overcome mental and environmental challenges is to speak up about them.
If going to the counselor’s office is soothing to you, it’s only a few steps away from actually talking about what’s bothering you. Talking about your problems isn’t easy or fun, but it’s not supposed to be. The goal of talking about issues is to get through them in one piece. Being honest with yourself and your counselor can unlock so many doors for you. You’ll be able to learn new coping skills like self-care, anger management, thought diffusion, problem solving, communication skills, etc all so you can go through life without the burden of feeling helpless, lost, and scared. Your counselor will be there with through every step of the way.
If you are being bullied at school, telling the counselor can hopefully bring an end to their treatment of you. With your permission, a teacher, a principal, or the counselor themselves can bring your bully/bullies to justice. School should be a safe place for you, and there are people there who can and are supposed to help you.
If you are having problems at home and at school that are making you want to self-harm and kill yourself, then immediate action needs to take place. If you don’t feel like talking to your counselor, please please please tell an adult that you know and trust, like a family member, family friend, a teacher, etc. Or call emergency services so they can take you to a hospital where you will be unable to fatally harm yourself.
Be gentle with yourself.
I have a tangle toy (see here) that I use for hair pulling which I love! Maybe try Vaseline or lotion on your hands, if possible? Sorry, I don’t really have much other advice! Maybe take up knitting or crocheting for at home?
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I have always been a sensitive person but in the past year it has been getting ridiculous. Basically, I am asking whether this is a symptom of anxiety, or can it be? I am very anxious about being perceived as foolish or incompetent so maybe it could be? is it worth mentioning to the SW I am seeing? thanks! :)
From what I’ve experienced, and from what I know about anxiety, hypersensitivity can most definitely be a symptom of anxiety. I think that there is a very strong connection between sensitivity and anxiety. I think that anxiety makes me people sensitive and sometimes hyper-vigilant too.
If I were you, I would bring it up to your SW. It seems like something that’s bothering you and that’s definitely worth bringing up to work through and process, and maybe even learn ways to deal with it, so it’s not affecting you as much.
I am so sorry that you’re struggling so much and dealing with all these thoughts right now. I may not know you, but I do know that you can get through this and that things can get better.
I know it’s really scary to reach out for help, but I would strongly encourage you to reach out to your mom and tell her how you’re feeling right now. She will be able to get you the support and help that you need (therapist, psych, doctors app..) right now to get through this and to work on these thoughts. I don’t think that she will be disappointed in you. She might be sad, but not disappointed. She will be proud of you for reaching out and for working towards change.
You deserve to feel good, and live a better life anon, so please reach out and get the help that you need and deserve!
I’m sorry that you have been struggling for so long without getting the proper support and help that you need. I understand how that could be really difficult dealing with your parents being invalidating and not letting you get the help you want and need.
You don’t deserve to suffer like this and you dont deserve to feel the way you do right now. I’m sorry that you cut, but I have faith that you can get yourself back on track with the proper support and help.
I think that the first thing you might want to try is sit your parents down and explain to them how you’re struggling (it doesn’t have to be in detail, just what you feel comfortable with) and tell them that you would like to seek out a therapist that you can talk with about everything you’re dealing with. I think that the more directly you explain things to them, the more likely they are to be responsive and helpful. You might want to even bring a list of therapists that you have researched and that you think you might work well with. This link might be helpful in explaining your mental health struggles to your parents.
Another suggestion I will say is to seek out support at school/work/family, Anyone who you think will understand be able to be there for. A lot of schools have guidance counselors, or therapists whose job is to help people through this kind of stuff and be that support. They could also be a 3rd party in explaining to your parents why you feel you need therapy.
Good luck anon, and I hope you get the help you want and need.
TW: Suicidal ideation
As someone who was in a similar position to yours just a few months ago, I can tell you with certainty that the worst thing you can do is drop out completely. I took a semester off in my freshman and junior years to take some time to heal—which I recommend—but by the time I was feeling better and more like myself, I was already missing school because I had nothing productive or interesting to do at home. The less you are doing to keep yourself stimulated and active, the easier it is to give into depression and anxiety, which we both know how dangerous that can be.
If you can take a semester off, do so. But do so with a plan in place. Schedule therapy (group or single) and find a weekly activity that interests you to get you out of the house. Plan how you will get back into school when you feel that you are ready. If you cannot take a semester off, take advantage of the counselling services that most colleges offer.
What alarms me most about your message was that you said you want to “drop out of life.” If you’re feeling suicidal, you need to tell someone immediately: a friend, a family member, a loved one. Someone who can help keep you safe. We have hotlines on our Helpful Resources Page if you don’t want to talk to someone you know. Or you can call 911 (or an emergency number) that will get you to a hospital so that you will be unable to harm yourself.
I know you said you need to support your family, but how can you do that if you are unwell? You need to make sure you can take care of yourself before you can take care of others. It’s like they say on airplanes: If the oxygen masks deploy, put the mask on your own face before helping those who cannot. If you can’t breathe, you can’t help others who can’t breathe. Same goes for mental and physical health. You can’t go to school and work and support your family if all you can think about is wanting to die. It’s too much undue pressure on you.
Please be gentle with yourself.
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The website linked (and many others) will sell you fake IDs in for a fee and it literally doesn’t qualify you for anything. Unfortunately, (at least in the United States) emotional support/therapy animals do not qualify as service animals. This means you can very well be legally rejected by a landlord, public transportation service, etc.
Please read this and stop spreading false information that will scam people out of their money. Taking advantage of people is one of the most disgusting things you can do.